Deborah Carter Gilliam Obituary in Richmond at Scotts Funeral Home

Obituary For Deborah Carter Gilliam

Deborah Carter Gilliam, 62, of Richmond, peacefully passed away April 8, 2024. She was an only child, born to Thomas and Edith Carter on May 11, 1961. Deborah grew up in Richmond, Virginia and graduated from John Marshall High School. She continued her education and graduated with a B.S. in Business Administration from Virginia Union University.

In 1989, she married Reuben L. Gilliam, II, and welcomed their first child, Toni. Her goals immediately shifted to maximize her time with Toni. Deborah returned to school and completed a Master's Degree in Education, from Virginia State University. The new career path would ensure when Toni became school aged, she would always share the same schedule as her daughter. Every school year, she looked forward to being able to spend each break and holiday with her family. The decision to become a teacher was initially made for her daughter, but it ultimately became a huge part of Deborah's life and set the precedent for her life's journey. Deborah gave birth to her second daughter, Taylor Gilliam in 1995. It was clear that her children were most important and later, grandchildren. Education became her love and passion second only to her family.

In 2007, Deborah started her second act and relocated to Henry County, Georgia. It was there she created a new community of students and co-workers, many of whom became her Georgia family. Deborah was a dedicated teacher for over 20 years. She worked hard to make sure grades were posted, parents were informed, and her classroom environment felt safe. Her loving nature, encouragement and support had a lasting impact on the lives of her students, many of whom carried their relationship beyond graduation. Students would check in on her through their adulthood and continued to include her in their major life milestones.

Deborah was passionate about her support system. She would often indulge in hanging out with her friends, and talking on the phone with her Mom and daughters daily. Her will to live centered around her family. She fought hard and displayed so much strength during the last few months of her life. Her heart was physically weak, but that did not stop her from displaying an abundance amount of love to her close family and friends.

Deborah is forever and lovingly remembered by her mother, Edith Carter; daughters, Toni Gilliam (Jay), and Taylor Gilliam (Jai'mon); grandchildren, Chase, Reuben and Lillian; other relatives and friends.

A memorial service will be held 11 a.m. Saturday, April 20, 2024 at Scott's Chapel, 116 E. Brookland Park Blvd. Interment Appomattox Cemetery, Hopewell, Va. All are welcome to attend and celebrate Deborah's life. Arrangements by Scott's Funeral Home, 115 E. Brookland Park Blvd.

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Ernestine Gilpin sent Simply Elegant Spathiphyllum for Deborah Carter Gilliam - April 18, 2024

Remembering Deborah always. Love, Ernestine (aunt), and Nicole and Brian (cousins)

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May you find comfort in the memories. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18) Dwanda Brew

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Deborah - You brought joy and the precious memories which you left behind for me to cherish. Never will I forget you. Rest in peace my dear friend. -Jenny Phan

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Debbie was indeed a beautiful soul. So sorry we loss contact but you were and will forever be in my heart. I offer my deepest condolences to your family. Soror Barbara Lee-BE VUU

Barbara Lee

Ms.Gilliam you are more precious than diamonds. I can't say enough good things about you. When I was down, your hugs and words of encouragement and advice really helped me get through. That smile of yours warms everyone like no other. You will truly be missed. Prayers to the family.
-Anthron Brocks

Anthron

Ms. Gilliam, I will always remember your smile and kindness. Our extended talks in the summer time when you were at SHS working. I am going to miss you and our conversations. I will forever remember our last conversation via text... January 7th. Rest well Deborah Fifi Harris

Ms Deborah will truly be missed! Our conversations on Saturday mornings were such a blessing. Gonna miss the moments we found a way to laugh during some most difficult moments. Definitely was sunshine on a cloudy day. Praying and believing that God will continually keep, protect, and take care of her family. Thankful to have met such a wonderful person! Grateful for the time she trusted me to take care of her hair. Arenetta Hall Jackson, Focused On You Hair Salon

My deepest sympathy to Deborah's mother and family. Although, she and I lost contact nearly 40 yrs ago - I often thought about Deborah (believing that where ever she was, she was doing great things!). I will always remember how she was such a nice neighbor to me. We met when we were both 13 yrs old. My fondest memory was- when I (and my parents), had just moved into the neighborhood / next door the her & her parents. I remember (as if it was just yesterday) (looking out the window and seeing this little girl (with bright RED hair??) - smile walking between the 2 houses. Finally, she came onto my porch, knocked on the door, and asked my mom "can the new girl come outside and play?"* We would spend hours sitting on each other's porch, laughing, eating junk food, and talking until it became dark outside. We attended JM High (at the same time), graduated and lost contact. It was another neighbor (that I recently ran into) who told me about her passing. I'll definitely remember, and always think fondly of Deborah. May the Lord comfort her mom, and her family* - Renee Cowans

Ms. Gilliam, thank you for pouring into my son, as he was blessed with the opportunity to be one of your students. On many challenging days, your bubbly personality and graceful smile were so uplifting. You will be greatly missed, but haven have gained an angel.

Mrs. Gilliam,
You will truly be missed. Thank you for being what our students needed and some. May you rest peacefully as you enter into Omega Omega Soror!
- Everett

First year at Stockbridge high school. New girl to computer class. She welcomed me in with this big ol smile and said welcome you must be Ms. Smith. I replied yes. She told me I could sit anywhere I sat in the front right by the door of course. She always made sure I was comfortable and was taking in the knowledge she was teaching the class. Best teacher ever ! Her warm hugs will be missed. -Lavionica S.

Lavionica S

Stunned and heartbroken to learn of the loss of one of Earth's most beautiful souls. From our very first encounter it was clear that the spirit Ms. Gillian's exuded was a bonus to the SHS Family. My prayer is that the loving memories shared and the celebration of her life will get the Carter-Gilliam Family through this difficult period. Rest well, Ms. Gilliam.... Rest well.

Mrs.Gilliam you were such a sweet person and great teacher . You really left your mark here and you will never be forgotten. Thank you for always being kind to me in school .

Kaylah

Ms. Deborah, you were truly one of kind!! Thank you for always being so thoughtful, kind and considerate whenever I was in your presence. The summers I stayed with you and Taylor were filled with much joy, laughter and love!! We always had a great time! You will be missed by us all, but the impact you made is everlasting! -Lyrik

As an individual who entered your classroom without knowing many people, you immediately made me feel at home! You provided me with much insight and guidance, and placed me on the path to becoming successful! You are and will always be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your yes!
To the family, I send my condolences and prayers to you all and ask that God give you all an abundance of strength to get through this time!
With love,
Daija W.

Daija

Ms. Gilliam! Where do I even start? Oh my goodness.. how can you describe such of an amazing woman with just words? I have never met a teacher as caring as you. Ms. Gilliam always smiled, was so kind, warm hearted, sweet and accepted anyone. You made work-based learning more than just an opportunity to work . It was a class full of life lessons , positivity and a safe place for ANY student to voice their concern about the outside world. You wouldn't believe how fast I ran to my class of 14' yearbook just to read your last kind words to me . Rest well Queen and prayers to your family . - Jasmine Janai

Miss Gilliam was a tremendous educator one of the first to make me feel welcomed moving to Stockbridge in the middle of my Junior year! Always encouraging, always ready for a hug and always greeted me with a smile! I'll miss your advice and your sweet spirit! You were an amazing teacher to me as I am sure as you were for my peers at SHS. 🧡💚 Thank you for all you did for me! I'll always remember you & those tight hugs! - Kala Sutton c/o 2016

It saddens me to hear about this. Ms Gilliam pushed me to do better. Gave me great advice. She was a very nice woman. She will be deeply missed 🙏🏽🤍🕊️ fly high angel
- Swiyyah Ellison

Swiyyah Ellison

An amazing presence at SHS... you'll be deeply missed.

Ms. Gilliam I will miss our morning talks at duty. I am thankful that I was able to have you as a teacher and co-worker. Your spirit lives on and I will miss you. -Ross

I am deeply saddened by the loss of our beloved colleague and friend. Her sweet spirit touched the lives of many, including mine. She was not only a remarkable teacher but also a cherished friend. My heartfelt condolences go out to her family, especially her daughter, whom I had the privilege to teach. May her legacy of kindness and dedication continue to inspire us all. Rest in peace, dear friend. Essie Jones

Deborah demonstrated what it meant to be a kind and caring person, with an outstanding work ethic. The times together were enjoyable while we traveled to conferences with students and attended Work-Based Learning meetings. She will forever remain in our hearts! Dwanda Brew

Ms. Gilliam was one of the calmest, gentlest, most pleasant persons I have known. Not only will I remember her for the composure she displayed daily, but also for her rolling bag every morning as she entered the building. I would always tease her about "hearing" her presence before I saw her walking in or out of the building. Gilliam, I know you are resting in peace. L. Walker

Ms. Gilliam, I will miss our short talks in passing. We would always talk as we passed each other often times in the parking lot and as we served on morning duty. You had such a peaceful, calm spirit. I appreciated the spirit of peace that you shared with me. This helped me more than you know. Although you are no longer with us in the physical, I strongly believe that your peaceful, spirit will live on through the many people you encountered. Gilliam, I will go for now and let you get your rest. REST WELL, my sister. Praying that we will meet again. Love, Cador.

It was a joy to work alongside with someone like Deborah. Her light heart and warm smile made everyone feel welcomed and appreciated. I remember her reaching out to go the extra mile for students on a consistent basis. She will be truly missed but the impact of her life will live on through all those who she touched. -Ms. Richardson

Deborah, it was a pleasure to know you and your family. I enjoyed our after school walks. You will certainly be missed blessings to your family. P

I worked in the classroom with Ms Gilliam and we had so much fun and laughter. She is a beautiful spirit and will be greatly missed. She also introduced me to her beautiful daughter Taylor who showed my two boys love. I am so thankful God blessed me with you all

Deborah you will truly be missed! Very kind and an instant joy to have been around for a brief moment of time in Louisa County as a dear friend and coworker; Only Pleasant,Lasting Memories, Avis Brown

Debbie - You will truly be missed!!! I have missed our time together since you moved to GA. We used to have such great times together. I know that your mom, Toni, Taylor, Chase, Reuben, and Lillian will miss you most but I will be coming in CLOSE behind. No matter what, you were always there with a text or call. You knew all my secrets and passions in life. You were certainly an amazing human on this Earth and am sure you are visiting with your dad. I LOVE YOU GIRL!!!! With everlasting love, Becky

Deborah was a kind, warm, and caring person. She was an integral part of our team. I am deeply saddened to hear of her passing and am sending my deepest condolences to her family and all of her loved ones. We will miss you. Rest well, Deborah. ~ Yvette Dupree

It was a joy to know Deborah and serve alongside her as a WBL Coordinator in Henry County. We shared laughs and stories about our children often. She was truly a classy lady. Rest in peace you will forever be missed! Tina Walcott

I am so glad we are friends. You tried to keep me organized and looking like a decent teacher. Regardless of your motion sickness,riding school buses,to accompany the HOSA crew on every conference. Your beautiful spirit reflected in your amazing daughters. The gentleness and care you give to your students, it is easy to understand when meeting your mother. I hear your walk as you approach my door with the rolling bag saying,"it's Atime to go". See you later, sweet friend.Freda

Words are not enough to describe this wonderful person. Deb was a great friend and coworker. There was never a time that I would go to her with some department project that she was unwilling to help. She helping reignite our chapter for National Technical Honor Society and ran the WBL program so well. The 400 hall will and already have missed her presence. Rest well Deb. We love you and will miss you.

Terrance Jackson

Ms. Gilliam was one of my teachers at Stockbridge High School. I last saw her in 2022 at an event at Stockbridge and that was my first time seeing her since I'd graduated in 2016. I was deeply saddened hearing about the news and I'm sending my deepest condolences to her family and loved ones.
-Brienna Ennis

Deborah and I would always ride together to WBL Region meetings. She always talked about her Mom, girls and her grands. I've truly missed her and my prayers are with her family.

Your strength and beauty internally and externally were beyond measure! You not only passed on a legacy to two magnificent daughters, but you made a major impression upon me. You often teased me and said that I was your "third" child; which suited me fine! And it still would!
Girl, I feel we covered it all and yet we didn't cover enough! But I trust God and we shall soon run and shop the "streets of gold" together again! Love and miss you best friend!!! Terri